Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend's Friend
In the last edition we discussed what to do if you get caught by your
girlfriend, that's obviously the worst that could happen. If you get
caught by someone else you have some options available to you. From
here on out things get easier, in comparison to the aforementioned
predicament.
As always, it all depends on who catches you. Today we will discuss
how to handle one of your girlfriend's friends getting wise to your
infidelity.
Caught by Your Girlfriend's Friends
If a friend of your girlfriend's catches you, your woman will know by
the end of the day, thus it's imperative that you act quickly and
decisively. If you know that you have been caught, you can try to
reason with this friend but it`ll most likely fall upon deaf ears
since her allegiance is to your girlfriend, not to you. You can tell
the friend that you know what you did was wrong, and to allow you a
chance to tell your girlfriend personally, since you think it should
come from you rather than someone else. To certain people this might
actually make you seem somewhat contrite and hopefully they will grant
you this favor, and save them the awkward situation of having to
reveal this information themselves.
But how is this any different than the friend telling your girlfriend,
after all she will find out either way, right? Well, right and wrong.
Yes, she will find out, but it if you want to have any hopes of
salvaging your relationship then it is far more important that it
comes from you. Somehow there is some sort of virtuous feeling
involved if you take it upon yourself, plus most women would rather
find out from their significant other rather than from a third party.
Finally, and most importantly, this will allow you to spin the story
in whatever direction you need to save your relationship.
By personally confessing your sins to your girlfriend you will catch
her off guard and you will have a chance to tell her your "story"
while she is still in shock and disbelief. But if she finds out from a
third party, by the time she gets to you she will have had plenty of
time to build up her anger and she will be seeking to release that on
you. She won't care what you have to say since she will be far too
upset to listen.
Also, if YOU tell her, it will save her the public embarrassment of
having someone else tell her, giving the situation an air of
discretion.
Remember as long as you control the information you can soften the
blow by selectively revealing and camouflaging aspects of your
indiscretions, as opposed to your girlfriend getting the gory
embellished details from her friend. By the time it gets discussed
between the two of them the focus will be on your girlfriend's pain
and healing rather than what actually happened, which can make the
difference in saving your relationship.
All your girlfriend needs to know is that you were unfaithful, the
details can and should be minimized by you. Damage control, take the
initiative and tell her yourself, but only tell her what you want her
to know.
I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend
series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you
save your relationship with your girl.
Stay Tuned.
Take Care,
A.C.
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Friday, October 5, 2007
If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend Part 1
All right, worst-case scenario: you get caught. I have two words for
you; crisis management. What you'll have to do (and quickly I might
add) is to minimize the crisis as much as possible.
I know this is a situation that you probably don't even want to think
about, let alone plan for. But any good player knows they must have a
contingency plan in place for the most unfortunate of circumstances.
You should be prepared for the worst and if that never comes to
fruition, then you can consider yourself lucky that you weathered the
storm.
Chances are the more you cheat, the more the odds will stack up
against you. You're better off mentally preparing yourself for the
inevitable, as well as having a plan to fall back on, instead of
standing there with you mouth agape, flushed with embarrassment with
an inability to say anything in your defense.
At this point information is your best friend. You'll have to find out
how you got caught, who saw you, how much they saw, how much they
know, and most importantly whether your girlfriend knows about it yet.
First things first, it all depends on who catches you. This might seem
immaterial since the truth of the matter is that you have been
exposed, but you have some options depending on whom you are
discovered by.
Caught by Your Girlfriend
This is again, obviously the worst-case scenario, that's why I am
addressing it first. If your girlfriend catches you, in most instances
you are screwed and your relationship is over. However, it depends on
the degree to which you are caught with your pants down, if you will.
If she only finds traces of another girl, perhaps some panties or a
romantic letter, then you might be able to deceive her into believing
that those are left over from a previous relationship that you kept as
a memento.
You might be able to fast talk her out of leaving you since she does
not have irrefutable evidence that you actually slept with someone
else, therefore she does not have the graphic image of you engaging in
a sexual act with another woman. That is very important since the
mental image of you with another woman will live with her forever.
If previous relationship memento leftover lie does not apply, then you
can try and own up to some of your infidelity by admitting that some
new girl had been showing you interest and somehow managed to catch
your attention. But you realized that it was wrong and have put a stop
to it, and that you were trying to find the right time to talk about
it. This will still keep the door open, however slightly, to
reconciliation and perhaps your girlfriend's forgiveness.
But if your girlfriend finds a used condom or walks in on you engaging
in sexual activity with another girl, it's over. She will have that
image in her mind and it will forever burn in her memory making it
unbearable for her to remain in a relationship with you. You might as
well save yourself the time and indignity of groveling for her
forgiveness; accept that you made a mistake and move on.
As for the girl you got caught with, if she doesn't know you have a
girlfriend, you can kiss her goodbye as well. You cheated on your
girlfriend with her, making her feel like a home wrecker, so why would
she want a relationship with you after that? You already demonstrated
your unfaithfulness to your girlfriend, why would she think you would
be true to her?
With the doomsday scenario addressed, I will continue the If You Get
Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with circumstances that
offer a greater opportunity for you save your relationship with your
girl.
Stay Tuned.
Take Care,
A.C.
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