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Don't Bother with Revenge

Trying to get revenge on an ex girlfriend will never do any good for

you or anyone else. You may think that it is the only way to get over

her but it is not. The more you hate the person, the more you are

prolonging your agony. Ex girlfriend revenge only causes you stress

and anxiety. Worst of all, things could change swiftly, and you may

find yourself regretting your action in the future.

Instead of nurturing the hurt that you feel, you should look at the

brighter side of life and move on. Dwelling on that revenge can only

stir up the ashes of your own hurt and resentment. These feelings will

prevent your from working on any solutions to your relationship that

might help get your ex girlfriend back. Instead of wallowing in the

pain and trying to transfer it, work on dealing with it and improving

yourself. You will have the best chance to get over your breakup and

possibly even winning back your lover if you eliminate the negativity

surrounding your relationship.

Bear in mind that you are causing more harm to yourself than the other

person. Revenge will never share the pain, but it will just increase

it. Always consider that poorly conceived ex girlfriend revenge plots

usually wind up making you look bad, and thus making you feel worse.

Posted by Elliot at 3:42 PM 0 comments

Labels: girlfriend, relationship, revenge, romance

Friday, July 6, 2007

Win Her Friends Over

Girls form pretty strong bonds between their friends, and they tend to

talk much more openly about their relationships than guys do. Because

of this, it is likely that your ex girlfriend's buddies know a lot

about you. They know why she loved you, but they also know why you

broke up. This information can be dangerous if you try fight against

her friends.

If you are suffering through a tough breakup then her friends are

probably against you. They want their friend to be happy and so they

see you as the enemy. You might get the "evil eye" or a snide giggle

when you around them...just expect it. What you don't want to do is

give them anymore reason to hate you. Calling them out will only make

things worse. Instead, you should be as nice to them as possible. Use

some of the same tactics on them as you would your ex girlfriend.

Little things like compliments can help you break down the some of the

many barriers between you and your ex.