word girlfriend

The word "girlfriend"

I can't seem to understand why it is some people have a difficulty

with the words girlfriend and boyfriend. It seems to be something that

society's insecurities has amplified over time. I say this because in

my earlier years, I don't remember it being as it is today. To me this

is sad, because a byproduct of this behaviour is an element of game

playing. Not huge, but a big part of game playing is a lack of

honesty. See the connection? How many of you ever thought at the so

important fork in the road of dating someone......... do they or don't

they?

The first time the word gets used, there is an undeniable bridge which

gets crossed. Really though, the bridge was crossed before the word

was uttered. It's just that hearing it reinforces what already is.

For me, feeling strongly for a woman and being mutually exclusive with

her makes her my girlfriend. In the case of R, this seemed to occour

quite quickly. Criteria: strong feelings? Oh my yes! and Exclusivity?

To me she is the only woman in the word. Of course this all caused me

much joy. :-) I would think it's always a two way street, but perhaps

not. Either way, a typical perspective from me.........a strong and

clear one.

The thing of it is, I can't play games. I can probably count on one

hand the number of times someone was able to complain that they didn't

know what I was truely thinking. I know I know, not great for the

mystery factor, but it's who I am.

I was planning on blogging on a ton of other stuff tonight but it came

up last night, so I thought I'd take the opportunity while it was

still fresh in my mind.

Tonight I have what will be a quick and lame council meeting for my

complex. Then my, what is becoming, nightly conversation with R. It'

so wonderful to wish her pleasant dreams every thing. Thank you Skype!

This is a routine I'm really digging. Oh, and usually after we get off

the phone, I send her what will be her morning song to wake up to. I

love her reactions to the things I do for her. The other night she was

ending what was a bad day, so in an attempt to cheer her up, I filled

her in a couple of surprises I was working on for her. I know, it

wrecked the surprises, but I loved hearing her get happy with my

comments. Totally made my night.

Tomorrow morning I'm back up to Whistler to continue on the kitchen.

Probably this will be a few days. I'm actually looking forward to it

as I'm kinda enjoying the seclusion up there.