Contacting Your Ex Girlfriend
When you first try to contact your girlfriend after a break up, you
need to have a strategy of what you are going to say. Simply picking
up the phone and hoping for the best will most likely lead to regret.
Think about the message that you want to portray to your ex. Was it
your fault that she left you? What factors were involved in the break
up? Answering these questions will help you target your message
appropriately. You need to be able to explain to her how things can be
different and what you have done to change the problems you have
experienced in the past. If you don't have any solutions, then you
need to brainstorm some before you call. Otherwise you won't have any
answers for the toughest questions.
The success of your dialogue will be influenced by the manner that you
present your strategy. Remember to always be positive when talking to
her. You need to portray confidence that things have changed and your
relationship can succeed. Approaching with a positive tone will
ultimately rub off on your ex. She will be less likely to be
defensive, and more likely to open up to your suggestions.
Finally, you need to prepare for a long-term solution. Your
relationship did not bloom instantly overnight. Rather it was built
through a series of fun times and trust-building activities. On that
same token, you can't expect to fix your break up right away. You will
have to rebuild the trust and confidence slowly over time. This is why
it is important to shoot for smaller goals at first. Work on
reestablishing the lines of communication first, then you can start to
talk about the future. Fix today's problems before you tackle your
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