I Don't Like My Girlfriend's Friends
Dear GirlShrink,
I am a 23-yr-old guy who has been in a relationship with my girlfriend
for about 2 years. I really think we have a good relationship. It
works. But there is just one thing, I can't stand my girlfriend's
friends.
I've known them all for the same amount of time. We all met each other
at work. But they are so in our business. Always trying to tell her
stuff about me, as well as all these suggestions for what she should
do about "us" - when two of them don't even have a boyfriend. They
don't even know what they are talking about! I just want them out of
our lives, because if they were, I think our relationship would be
much better.
Any advice?
-Joe P.
New York, NY
Dear Joe,
I'm sure that your girlfriend's friends are very important to her and
are strong influences in her life. Many women have those type of
relationships - especially at her age. BUT one thing you are going to
have to realize is that - they cannot force your girlfriend to do
anything that she doesn't want to do. So if she listening to them in
regards to her relationship with you - a lot of that is her fault -
not theirs.
You need to keep communicating with your girlfriend about how you
would like her to make decisions and choices based on only what is
between the two of you - and not all 4 or 5 of you! This will be kind
of a new concept for her to get use to - because girls are socialized
to share their lives (especially romantic parts) with their
girlfriends. OR at least one close girlfriend.
It might not be a bad idea to get on at least one girl's good side.
Its so much easier to win these girls over than to fight them to the
death! Trust me. A little flattery - and a kind gesture - and they
will change their tune rather soon.
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