getting caught cheating by your

Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend's Friend

In the last edition we discussed what to do if you get caught by your

girlfriend, that's obviously the worst that could happen. If you get

caught by someone else you have some options available to you. From

here on out things get easier, in comparison to the aforementioned

predicament.

As always, it all depends on who catches you. Today we will discuss

how to handle one of your girlfriend's friends getting wise to your

infidelity.

Caught by Your Girlfriend's Friends

If a friend of your girlfriend's catches you, your woman will know by

the end of the day, thus it's imperative that you act quickly and

decisively. If you know that you have been caught, you can try to

reason with this friend but it`ll most likely fall upon deaf ears

since her allegiance is to your girlfriend, not to you. You can tell

the friend that you know what you did was wrong, and to allow you a

chance to tell your girlfriend personally, since you think it should

come from you rather than someone else. To certain people this might

actually make you seem somewhat contrite and hopefully they will grant

you this favor, and save them the awkward situation of having to

reveal this information themselves.

But how is this any different than the friend telling your girlfriend,

after all she will find out either way, right? Well, right and wrong.

Yes, she will find out, but it if you want to have any hopes of

salvaging your relationship then it is far more important that it

comes from you. Somehow there is some sort of virtuous feeling

involved if you take it upon yourself, plus most women would rather

find out from their significant other rather than from a third party.

Finally, and most importantly, this will allow you to spin the story

in whatever direction you need to save your relationship.

By personally confessing your sins to your girlfriend you will catch

her off guard and you will have a chance to tell her your "story"

while she is still in shock and disbelief. But if she finds out from a

third party, by the time she gets to you she will have had plenty of

time to build up her anger and she will be seeking to release that on

you. She won't care what you have to say since she will be far too

upset to listen.

Also, if YOU tell her, it will save her the public embarrassment of

having someone else tell her, giving the situation an air of

discretion.

Remember as long as you control the information you can soften the

blow by selectively revealing and camouflaging aspects of your

indiscretions, as opposed to your girlfriend getting the gory

embellished details from her friend. By the time it gets discussed

between the two of them the focus will be on your girlfriend's pain

and healing rather than what actually happened, which can make the

difference in saving your relationship.

All your girlfriend needs to know is that you were unfaithful, the

details can and should be minimized by you. Damage control, take the

initiative and tell her yourself, but only tell her what you want her

to know.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend

series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you

save your relationship with your girl.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,

A.C.

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